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I would like to briefly just mention the key ways that are really simple (if you think it is, and if you really WANT a happy married life) that lead to a happy married life.

1. Almost, the first thing is to ask yourself, what to do for a happy and peaceful atmosphere in your family. The answer to this question will definitely differ from family to family and couples as well.

2. Be a giver in your married relationship. Always be the first to do things that would please or make your spouse happy, rather than expecting from him/her.

3. Be a good listener. Always be the first to listen to your spouse, before you start to put forth your view point on anything.

4. Be an effective communicator. This is indeed different from point 3. It is not only important that you listen to your partner, but it is also equally important to communicate in a way that your message can be correctly understood by your spouse. There is no need for long boring sentences to be clear; a short sentence to the point will make the conversation effective. Also avoid vague and indirect sentences.

5. Your spouse is not an ideal creation of God and all human beings indeed have imperfections. Don’t put up your expectations straight on your spouse, and ask yourself if you are an ideal creation. Be realistic in whatever you expect from your spouse.

6. Always avoid arguments. Arguments don’t bring in anything useful to your married life; rather they make you guys apart. In addition, you cannot ever solve a problem by arguing on it.

7. Choose a hobby in common and spend at least few hours a week (preferably on a weekend) together in that hobby. Hobbies can refresh your married life and can improve your understanding on each other.

8. Cooking (don’t choose this as a hobby!) together has many advantages. You reveal to your spouse that you are helpful, and at the same time you can have fun in trying new dishes. There will be intimate moments while you cook together and, don’t remember to laugh at your dish if it tastes like hell.

9. Always look for opportunities to appreciate your spouse. Appreciation does wonders and helps to build up on your spouse’s self confidence.

10. Do nifty things often to impress and surprise your partner. You can either choose to do this in an expensive or cost effective way. Remember, the price does not matter. You can choose to leave cards in unexpected places in your house, leave a red rose in the bed with a note; post a “Miss You” card addressed to your spouse’s office, the possibilities are endless.

11. Relish every moment together. Be romantic and enjoy your time together.

12. Last, but not the least, reveal your love for your spouse. It can be the words “I Love You” or any kind of creative stuff (like holding hands, a hug, a kiss and so on), but just keep saying. The more you say the more it grows.

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Sometimes we come to a point of pondering about how to be happy in life. Sometimes we desperately chase something because we think that can make us happy but at times we still end up unhappy and not contented.

Indeed, we may not even know what can make us happy and some of us may believe that being unhappy in life is something that is destined for them. However, we can be truly happy if we believe we can. Here are some things that you may be ignoring but can make you happy and some strategies to help you achieve happiness.

- Know what you want in life and what you love doing. Your interests and passion in life are among the things that can give you happiness and fulfillment and thus, for as long as you give time to do what you want and enjoy your passion, you can be happy in life.

- Visualize the things that can make you happy. Having a mental image of whatever it is that can make you happy will help you condition your subconscious on being happy and boosting your mood as well.

- Take care of your health. It is often hard to be happy if your physical self is not well. Loose extra weight if you are overweight or obese, have a healthy diet, cut down on bad eating habits and do exercise. Of course, poor nutrition can be a factor to your bad mood. Keep in mind that the healthier you are, the easier you can learn how to be happy in life.

- Go with positive people. They most likely are happy ones. Get rid of negatives in life and avoid negative people as much as you can. Being negative can influence you and may lead you to being unhappy. If you can’t get away with dealing with negative people especially if it happens in the workplace, then you can choose how to react to them and stay away from being angry or irritated.

- Do your share. Another thing that you can do to learn how to be happy in life is to do your share. Many troubles start from people not doing their share - so if you want to be happy for yourself and for others, then you can start now by doing your share.

- Take time to appreciate nature. The power of nature indeed includes the power to make us feel light, easy and happy, thus if you have the blues, go out and enjoy walking in the park or spending time to appreciate the beauty of nature.

- Give and share. One great way on how to be happy in life is to give and share to others what you have. Giving is indeed a wonderful way to make others happy and at the same time making yourself happy too.

- Stop comparing yourself to others. The more you compare, the more you will end up frustrated, envious and jealous, and these can make you less happy.

Start with these simple tips and you’d surely discover that little things can be great ones especially in learning how to be happy in life.

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We all know how it feels to be happy, we feel happy when we win a game, score a goal, make someone smile, make the sale, kiss the person you love on a romantic walk. But when someone asks you if you are happy with your life you begin to realise that being a ‘happy person’ is a little more difficult to decipher…

There’s a guy with the sunniest disposition in the office, but when he gets home he sits alone and is enveloped in a shroud of solitary sadness, but to everyone else he’s jolly Nigel. Then there’s Katia, the office shrinking violet with the quiet monotone voice who just wants to get through her unpleasant day, she’d rather be back at home with her husband and two little girls where she turns into Little Miss Sunshine the quintessential happy person, you’d never guess.

We all compare our mental, physical and material states to those around us but this can be misleading. Happiness is no exception. Have you ever heard someone whistling cheerfully to themselves and wanted to shut them and their nauseating cheerfulness up because frankly you don’t feel like being happy, and yet on another day you find yourself singing to yourself because you’re in a great mood.

Amongst those I help, I often find a common denominator in people who are unhappy and feel their life isn’t going according to plan - it is their mindset. For example, Jonas has a lot going for him, he has a family, a well paid job, and the respect of his friends. However he is a heavy smoker and drinks more than average, he tells me he is unhappy, because he hasn’t achieved his business goals and aspirations and won’t be happy until he has done so. He also tells me he won’t be able to think of new business ideas until he quits smoking and drinks less.

Rita says she won’t be happy until she has finished decorating the house, got a part time job and lost ten pounds. And here lies the problem. Too many people feel they won’t be happy until they have reached certain achievements in their lives. And guess what, these self promises pretty much guarantee a lack of general happiness. This attitude of delayed happiness is controlled by some sort of internal mechanism that says if I give myself happiness as a reward for getting things done then I will work harder to get things done now. The only problem being that if you reach your goal you invariably find new aims you want to pursue and the circle of deferred happiness begins again.

The alternative

When you look at world champions or successful business people, they may be steely eyed, determined, arrogant but they are successful and if they feel they are moving forward steadily I’d hazard a guess that that will make them happy. Why is that? Although there may be exceptions what you will find is that these successful professionals live in a world of rules, objectives, deadlines and goals. They have a path laid down by themselves and their coaches. Everyone may have their ideals but the difference here is that they are confident in their path to success and because of this they are happy that they are on the path they want to be on. They are working somewhere near their own potential. And there lies the secret - set your plans and objectives, figure out why you want to do these things then figure out how you want to do them. Set your short, medium and long term goals and then start walking down that path and be happy that you are on the path you want to be on. I discuss this in more depth in my programme.

You see happiness is in the now not the future you just need to ignore what the media tells us, we live in a material life where everywhere we look there are signs that tell us ‘worse than, better than’ when in fact they’re manufactured labels of a competitive society.

But life is hard, I hear you say. Yes of course that’s planet Earth it’s a struggle for every living member of this planet. But if you are happy that today you are doing something to sustain your life and help you grow as a person for the future then be happy.

Be it for your business, your family or other personal goals as Barack Obama said ‘if you’re walking down the right path and you’re willing to keep walking, you’ll make progress’. And of course, reward yourself when you reach your milestones. But I say be happy in real time, in the now and because you’re on that path. Who knows if you’ll ever get another chance, so make the most of it, you may just find you whistle and sing your way to success sooner than you think.

I’m a practicing Peak Performance Expert and Hypnotherapist in Leicester City Centre and I reinforce these ideas of commitment with all my clients and they love it.

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Most of the people prefer to be happy in life. There are several things these people do to add more happiness to their life. However, most of the times such people fail to achieve the real happiness! Why? When you are taking in some ways to keep yourself happy, why are you not getting happiness?

Living a happy life is really easy, and you can achieve it with your own attempts. In past it has been mentioned that happiness remains within you! All you need to know it and how you can draw the most of it from within.

There are many people who search for the secrets for staying happy. If you are also having the same notion and spending more time online or at the library to explore such secrets for staying happy, then you are at the wrong end. Certainly, you will draw a few points when you are searching for happiness or related topics, and you may work on those points to draw a better life. However, soon you will feel that these points are not that effective enough. You will receive happiness for sometime but on a long run these points won’t work! Well, the happiness that you will draw that appears as a limited offer! It will appear and it will soon vanish. And subsequently you will start to feel that all your wasted the time and effort.

If you are looking forward to true happiness, then it’s time to think about your approach for the life. This is the most important factor for any person who lives in deep sorrow because he/she feel that there in nothing left in life to cheer about. However, this is a wrong concept. Well, sorrows are there but overcoming over such an aspect of life can bring in better values for you. No one can help you in overcoming sorrows of life. It’s you who need to combat against these odds, and you can make your life more enjoyable as well as pleasant.

If you are trying to get happiness in your life, then you need to follow a simple rule! Live Your Life to the Fullest and Enjoy Every Moment! Live your life in your way and in your style. Live your life as you want and love to live and that will add better values for your future. There are many people who seem to be worried about their future. Well, this is a good thing but getting over worried about your future will ruin your present condition.

So, this is always better to maintain a proper balance for your life, and you can easily lead a happy life. Keep in mind that happiness is such an aspect that revolves around being happy and your good fortune. If you are satisfied and contend with small achievements in life, then you are really happy with comparison to such people that are having everything in life but they are still unsatisfied with their achievements.

Again happiness is the aspect that cannot be defined properly because it often depends on an individual and his/her nature. For some people, their kids are the source of happiness and for some it’s the money. Well, such taste for drawing happiness may differ from person to person. Ways for staying happy differ but the feeling that our heart use to draw has always remained the same for such aspects.

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Two friends were walking in the desert. During the trip they were arguing about something. One of the two friends slapped his friend, and the one who got slapped felt sick but he did not say anything, he just wrote on the sand: “TODAY my best friend slapped me”

They kept on walking until they found an oasis (water source), they agreed to take a shower, a friend who had been slapped slipped and nearly drowned into the oasis, but his friend came and helped him, and when he got rescued from danger, he wrote on the Stone “Today my best friend saved my life“

A friend who had slapped and saved the lives of his best friend asked him, “After I hurt you, you wrote in the sand and now, you write it on a stone, why?

His friend replied: “When someone hurts us, we should write on the sand, for the wind will fly it and can remove it so it can be flown away. But when someone does something nice for us, we have to carve on a stone where no wind can erase it”

Reflections:

I love that story, it is told in the many versions of the core message is “forgive and forget others’ mistakes, but still remember every good deed of them”. Easy to write, but difficult to practice because we still have anger in our souls, to be able to forgive and forget this anger must be removed from our soul. We can use the tips and exercises to overcome anger in a book titled “Together with J.P. Vaswani: Reaching a peaceful and a happy life (Bersama J.P. Vaswani: Menggapai Hidup Damai & Ceria) - Anand Krishna - PT. Gramedia Pustaka Utama. In the book Mr. Anand Krishna reviews therapy on how to be joyful and overcoming the anger.

In our everyday life it is impossible not to be angry, in our social interactions with others we may happen to argue each other and that could have been intentionally or unintentionally make us angry. Not everything runs like what we want, There must be something happen which do not according to what we plan before and it usually makes us angry. Forgive and forget something that makes us angry is a difficult thing to do, we can not simply forgive and forget, therefore we need to learn about it, we need to cultivate ourselves. We need to empower ourselves to handle the anger in order to obtain a cheerful life, so that we can behave like the story above. When we are angry we are like writing on the sand for the wind will carry that anger away, but we remember the kindness of people just like we carve it on a rock.

The beloved Prophet once said that the best way to remember those who passed away is to remember their kindness. Again, the choice is in our hands, whether to choose to hate people or to train ourselves to empower our anger to free our soul from useless burdens so we can gain a cheerful life. The choice is entirely ours.

Well, keep on empowering ourselves!

Reference

Together with J.P. Vaswani: Reaching a peaceful and a happy life ( Bersama J.P. Vaswani: Menggapai Hidup Damai & Ceria ) - Anand Krishna - PT. Gramedia Pustaka Utama

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List of 33 things I personally follow to make each day a dream and each dream a reality. Please adapt what vibrates with you and share with others.

1. Start each day with a smile and say or think: “Today is going to be a beautiful day!”
2. When you wake up try to recall what you dreamed about and write down what you remember. The more you do this, the more you will recall.
3. Eat breakfast like a king, lunch like a prince and dinner like a Pauper.
4. Know that love is the answer.
5. Sit in silence for at least 10 minutes each day.
6. Take more care of your body by getting proper sleep and exercise
7. Relax and read more than you did the year prior.
8. Practice meditation daily, at the beginning of the day if possible. You find clarity in your mind body and soul.
9. Listen to people, pay attention to what they say and try to see the God in them. Smile.
10. Eat more foods that grow on trees and plants and less that is manufactured in plants. Avoid red meats and cut back on other meats.
11. Drink a lot of water. The body is 70% water. Water flushes and detoxifies the body and much more. Aim for a gallon a day.
12. Remove the clutter from your house, car, desk, and allow the new flowing energy in your life.
13. Don’t react to life’s drama. Observe, decide, choose then act from your higher self as a mature human being.
14. Fall in love with what IS. All suffering comes from not accepting what reality is showing you. Accept, allow and trust the power that has made the present what it is.
15. Know that you are a spirit having a human experience and that physical reality is just an illusion. One that you have had many lives in.
16. Know that you can be happy at anytime just by smiling and thinking of a happy place or thing.
17. Know that when you leave joy and happiness to feel angry and sad, it is a choice and you did not have to choose to do so. No one made you. Accept ownership.
18. Suffering arises from seeking happiness outside of you. Seek it from inside always.
19. Forgive yourself and others.
20. Love unconditionally, like a mother loves her baby. Treat everyone like your baby.
21. Don’t judge others, all choices are valid. All beliefs are true.
22. Know that you are always OK. You always were and always will be. So why worry.
23. What other people think of you is none of your business.
24. Remember that God is love.
25. However good or bad a situation is it will change. It always has and always will. Change is the only constant in creation.
26. Life has no meaning other than that of being happy.
27. What you put out is what you get back. Put out only love, truth and joy and watch your world change.
28. If something does not serve you, then remove it or stop doing it.
29. Always tell the truth and act from a Christ like consciousness of goodness and know that whatever you want to do, the universe will support you.
30. Each night before you go to bed be grateful for the day and ask to be shown in your dreams, whatever you want to know or see.
31. Go to bed in a clear and happy state of mind and ask to remember your dreams.
32. Remember that you are connected to creation and loved unconditionally.
33. Enjoy your life and make it count so as you return back into spirit world each night you can be proud of your latest greatest self. Smile and happy dreams.

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Norman Bird is a student/teacher of New Age Spirituality, Meta Physics, Healing & Alchemy.

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Marriage can be defined as a social institution where man and woman establish their decision to live as husband and wife by legal commitments. Two partners enter into this institution only after establishing that they are ready to commit to each other for life. But somewhere down the road, certain hurdles faced during this companionship may fade the charm it had in the beginning. Research shows that more than 40% marriages end in divorce these days. Kind of scary, isn’t it?

Let’s explore some of the reasons why marriages fail.

Lack of Trust. What is the most important key factor in keeping the marriage alive? Trust. If two people cannot trust each other to share their feelings, emotions and thoughts, chances are they will grow apart. Trust is the foundation of healthy and happy marriage, and if couple or one of them do not trust the other, main ingredient of successful marriage is gone. Open communication leads to trust that leads to higher level of comfort and love for each other.

Money Matters. Being in a married life means you have to watch out for certain spending and saving. If both of you do not see eye to eye and do not agree with how money is spent or saved, it won’t do you any good. It is important to sit together and plan out a budget that both parties agree with. There should be talk about investments, kids college funding, mortgage paying off and other major money matters to keep things in prospective. Financial matters can make or stain a good relationship.

Egoistic Nature. Do you always feel the need to be right, making the final decision or having the last word in an argument? If yes, you need to work on your attitude. Behaving in an arrogant way and acting like a boss instead of spouse can get your marriage in trouble. Your spouse and you have equal say in the household and children decision. So, be a little flexible and listen out to what your partner has to say.

Lifestyle Issues. If your job is too demanding or your social life is too hectic, chances are your spouse may start feeling neglected. They may start feeling that you do not care for them anymore. So, make it a point to spend some quality time with each other every now and then. This is refresh your relationship and make your spouse grow fond of yourself more than ever.

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Just ask any pet owner about their pet and you are likely to see them perk up all over their body. They will smile, get excited and probably tell you at least one funny story about their pets. Even the popular on-line game, World of War Craft, recognizes the power of a happy pet.

Health, Happiness, and Pets

Advocates of alternative medicine have long recognized that happiness is pets. Animals are taken into nursing homes, hospitals and other centers to work their magic on people who are ill. A January 2008 New York Times article, quotes a Japanese study showing that pet owners have fewer doctor visits and an Australian study that shows pet owners have lower blood pressure and cholesterol. Dogs perform search and rescue, act as guides for those who cannot see or hear, and can even sometimes predict seizures in their human companions.

There are many theories behind this. In a 2003 article from the Clemson University Undergraduate Journal, Alicia Stribling notes that a review of research indicates that the quality of the relationship matters. People with a positive relationship get more benefits from pet ownership than others. Some research indicates that happiness is pets because the pets have primarily positive interactions with us. They do not criticize, condemn, or complain, but provide steady affection.

Happiness is Pets for Animals Too

Whatever the reason, even animals find comfort in relationships with other animals. For example, the famous gorilla, Koko, loves kitties. Koko is learning to communicate with humans through sign language and if the photos were not compelling enough, Koko has confirmed her love of humans, other gorillas, and kittens through her language.

Another famous example of animals connecting with other animals to confirm that happiness is pets in the animal kingdom too, is the turtle who adopted the baby hippo in the African animal rescue camp after the big Tsunami.

Happiness is pets that are adopted

A large body of research on positive psychology shows that people are happier when they are helping others. You can increase your pet happiness further when you adopt an animal from your local animal shelter or humane society. If you are looking for just the right pet to rescue, you might also look on petfinders.com. In addition to dogs and cats, they have a wide variety of unusual animals like horses, birds and others. I know someone who adopts farm animals who would otherwise be slaughtered like chickens and sheep.

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Happiness is a set of habits and with a little reminder now and then, we can all be happier now. The author of this article, Susan McMillin, is the founder of Happy Life University.

Going through a divorce is very hard. When you are struggling with your life after divorce, you should keep in mind the following things, which may help you lots.

You should keep in mind your life can be great after your success with going through a hard time. The first thing you should do is to admit that you will go through a trying time in your life.

Having a positive attitude about your new life is very important. a positive attitude can give you a happy life after divorce. You can make use of this precious opportunity to rediscover yourself. It is common to have the feeling of grieving after a divorce. It will be very tough if you don’t remain positive about what’s in front of you.

You should learn to laugh more and learn to let things go. Look at the bright side, having life after divorce could be a new start for you!

You can take this time to focus on what really matters to you. Find your time and strive for what you really want. You should know your life purpose and spend time doing things that you like to do every week. In this way, you will find life after divorce is not hard.

Divorce is not easy or fun, but you can make it through. If you have already walked out from the shadow of divorce, you should take the time to plan your life. Life after divorce is not as hard as you think if you can take well control over it.

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If you want nothing more than to generate a feeling of well-being in your life, check out a variety of happiness quotes to get started!

These quotations can help you define your personal meaning of happiness, and often times the light-hearted, heart-felt, evocative words of others can help generate a sense of joyfulness internally.

You can use quotations on being happy to shape your reality, to change how you perceive your world and life situations, and to generate some cheer in your life every single day.

Abraham Lincoln believed that happiness is definitely defined by every individual seeking it. Finding it involves understanding what it is, how it affects your life, and how to ultimately achieve a happy state.

You can use the powerful, thought provoking and original words and expressions offered up by others to make you think about the true meaning of what it is to be truly content.

Is contentment found in money? Is your bliss found in being loved by another? Can you create your own seventh heaven without seeking it from the external world around you?

Happy quotes, when contemplated, reflected, and deliberated on can help you form a firm understanding of what real well-being is; once identified you can pursue happiness in your life.

You may find that on some days you just need one or more inspiring sayings to lift your spirits. You can turn to the words of Anne Frank who wrote: “Think of all the beauty that is still left in and around you and be happy.”

Or you can use the wise words of Democritus who believed that happiness is not found in gaining material possessions but is something that is found deep within the soul in order to help you develop a deep, spiritual understanding of what being happy means.

You can also use quotations to enhance your journal writing and to cause you to reflect deeply about your life and your overall state of contentment.

Whenever you feel your mood starting to shift into a slight depression or you feel too stressed out to handle daily situations, you can read and reflect on quotes about being happy so that you can immediately shift your state of mind to things more positive.

Having a positive perspective and world outlook will help you shape your future in more positive ways; great quotes are the perfect expressions to touch your heart and soul, to cause you to think, and to help you move forward in your life even when things seem a bit tough.

Use happiness quotations every day by reading them, writing about them, and spread the joy you find by sharing your quotes with others!

Inspire your life with these great Happy Quotes and Happiness Quotes.